You are who you are. Their approval is not needed. They can take away everything but they will never be able to take away your original you. The above statements exemplify, for me, why we, as woman, ought to come together like imbumba and protect one another. Each individual must take a stand and stop speaking ill of other women and unnecessary jealousness. We all know that jealousy can occur, I also experience it at times, but I fight it like others who refuse to live with their pervasive jealous. We need to stand against betrayal because we tend to judge one another, knowing how hard it is to be a woman. Greet another woman today- a simple “hello” won’t cost you your life. Tell her she’s beautiful and not only that you will be uplifting her soul but you will also sleep with satisfaction knowing that you have made another woman smile today.
In this day and age, never depend on anyone but your parents. Ultimately, we cannot depend on men and whatever may be in their pocket because, despite the blessers or sugar daddies being able to give you what you want, you will also be forced to give one thing that a female values the most (particularly in traditional African culture). Imagine at this young age you are already infected with HIV/AIDS just because of money, is money really the roots of all evil? If it has the power to kill, infect, and make our young woman greedy?, or we as humans need to take control of the situation if things don’t work out and not rely on Blessers and Sugar Daddies as if it is the end of the world, I understand things happen but each and every one of us have the power to stop it from happening. My wish is to see no woman obtaining the guts to date, not to mention having a sexual relationship with a man old enough to be your father, what are we teaching the young? There’s a quote from Whims.me/AicX that says that money only impresses lazy girls because when a woman works hard, a man with money becomes a bonus, not a ladder to social mobility. Young ladies, work hard now so that in the future when you enter an expensive shop you will be able to take that dress or those shoes that caught your attention and swipe your card without even looking at the price.
You are defined by what you wear, if you decide to wear that bum short, that crop top, long skirt… wear it with pride, walk the talk and if someone’s complains on how you wear and say they don’t like what you wearing, just smile and walk away because you didn’t wear that for them, you wore it for you and the only thing that matters is that you love what you are wearing and you are happy. Jenessa Michele said that when people see her, when other women see her, they may be judging her based on how much her clothes cost. If the cost of our clothing and where we buy them define our personal value, then that (in my humble opinion) is a major problem.
Seeing a pretty woman with expensive clothes can be intimidating because you will just think that she’s got it all. Instead of lowering your self-esteem and comparing your appearance to other women, you are only causing yourself heartbreak because everyone is beautiful in their own way and everyone was created by one person. It was not a mistake for you to walk these grounds and to be on this earth. Your mother carried you for nine months. She didn’t carry a useless child nor did she raise a weak woman. The fact that she gave birth to you (this young, beautiful, gorgeous you) shows how much potential she saw in you. It is now your turn to play your part and make your mother proud as she is your goddess on earth. Do not be ashamed if your mother is a drunkard and your father a garden boy. Take a stand and be brave enough to change the situation at home because in life it doesn’t matter where you come from but what matters is where you going.
I agree with Hillary Clinton when she says that she believes that the rights of women and girls are the unfinished business of the 21st century. Statistically, women have always experienced (and continue to experience) more poverty than men. Slowly but surely, we will get to a point where everything is equal. This will only happen if we get together because, as the popular saying goes, when you strike a woman, you strike a rock. Emma Watson says that she will not stand down until she gets to see an equal number of female prime ministers, presidents and CEOs and more men feel that it is okay to express how they really feel about things and more fathers are present in their children’s lives. Personally, until I see us all not policing and oppressing each other and not ostracizing each other and when I live in a world where there isn’t a narrow understanding of masculinity and femininity, I will not stand down. I stand for my belief that it is right that women are paid the same as their male encounter pants. I believe that I have the right make decisions about my own body. I believe it is right that women be involved, on my behalf, in shaping the policies and decisions that will affect my life. Ultimately, I stand firm in my belief that ought to be offered the same respect as my male counterparts.